Putting it all out there…

It’s been just about 5 years since I gave birth to my third child. *yikes, where has the time gone?* It is now time to face the music. I need to lose weight. Not just a pound or two, but more along the lines of 30+ pounds. I don’t know when or how I got to this point, but for me, being the skinniest, thinnest family member, I am sadly no longer that person. Chalk it up to age, lack of energy, lack of time, what ever, the point being, I need to start making time for me so I can lose this weight. I may not eat the best foods so I will have to make small changes until I am back to eating fruits and veggies daily. It can be done! Then with exercise, yikes, I hate to exercise. Running hurts my feet, walking is boring, but I did find two activities that I enjoy, swimming and spinning…oh and I guess pilates. I’d really like a personal trainer but can’t afford one so I have to figure out the best plan of attack. With overweight family members it might be a struggle, but I have to do this.

Here’s where you come in. I need to be held accountable for my actions. I need support and encouragement. I have a tendency to do great for a week or two, then slack off completely. I can’t let that happen and I’d love for your help in making sure I don’t give up on myself. If you have any weight loss tips, suggestions, advice, dvd suggestions, routine planning, I would love to hear it. If you have any cooking ideas for someone who can’t stand anything fishy and doesn’t eat raw veggies, please share your recipes, food shopping tips, etc… I would love to hear from you as well.

My personal goal is to lose 40 pounds by my 40th birthday which is in November. It is doable, so it isn’t completely out of reach. Do you think I can do it? Do you think you’d wanna help me? Ugh, that means I need to shop for work out clothes, gym shoes and socks…maybe even one of those exercise things you see people wearing on their arms or waist…. so much to plan and prepare for.

My start date: June 25, 2009! I will have to weigh myself first and will edit that in here so I have a starting point. Not thrilled about posting it, but if it’s out there…I really need to just suck it up and do it already. I am certainly not getting any younger and it isn’t just ‘falling’ off like it used to. I’ll be back in a few hours to report my starting weight. Yikes, how many calories do I need to stay within!?!?!?

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Miley Cyrus Concert or Bust

I say bust. As a mom of a tween, of course we live in a house filled with Miley chat, products, clothing, music, and tv. It can get quite overwhelming at times but I do remember having my idols when I was her age so I don’t think too much about it. What I do think too much of lately is an experience with the purchase of Miley Cyrus Fan Club “Pre-sale” concert tickets. Lemme explain.

Miley World announces that you can purchase Pre-Sale concert tickets on Monday, June 8 at 10:00 am local time to the venue. They are allotted 5000 tickets per venue for fan club members. So I wait patiently until the clock strikes 10am and I am at my computer with credit card in hand. Now, first off, they are doing ‘paperless’ ticketing, meaning you are limited to 4 tickets per HOUSEHOLD and the person who’s credit card you used must be present to redeem the tickets. No, you cannot buy little Johnny, or sister Sarah tickets for their birthday unless you plan on driving them and getting them in using that credit card and government issued ID. Now, don’t get me wrong, I understand completely that ticket prices were outrageous, scalpers were out in full force during her last concert appearance so something had to be done. They also had pre-sale for American Express card holders, so even if I wanted to, I couldn’t get another set of 4 tickets and sell the others at face value if I got better seats the second time around. Now, regular sale tickets begin on Saturday. I can try to get tickets under my moms name and address and see if we can get any closer, but then what do I do with the 4 paperless tickets that I will still have? I am kicking myself for buying these tickets. Do I have an out?

I guess my main issue at this point is how Fan Club members get nose – bleed seats? If they are giving you advanced notice by offering you “Pre-Sale” tickets, don’t you think you would get a better shot at getting tickets closer to the stage instead of getting tickets in the 306 section? We pay yearly for this so called fan club, which all it is really, is an online community for tweens and teens to talk about Miley and how much they love her. I can say this for sure. I am thinking twice about renewing that membership, it clearly is not worth it.

Now, I am stuck with crappy seats, out $285.00, and my yearly membership fee. Is my daughter even thrilled to see the concert? Well I can’t say she is too excited knowing that she is going to see a speck on a stage. I just hope the show exceeds our expectations because as of right now, we are not happy Miley fans.

Temper tantrum galore!

A mothers worst nightmare, the temper tantrum. The ultimate worst nightmare? A child having a temper tantrum while out shopping. Yes, that is my ultimate worst nightmare and it actually came true the other day. I swear I thought I was going to have the police show up at the store for having my 4 year old disrupting the patrons of this store. It was awful! I had never been so embarrassed in all of my life! My two other children had their share of tantrums but never to this extreme. She was in consolable, a force to be reckoned with! It all started over a simple Army toy that I would not let her have. It contained a ‘fake’ knife and next to the fake guns, I simply could not allow “this” particular child to have anything that remotely resembled the real thing! So, nicely I said no, she couldn’t have it but could have the other police toy with the badge. That answer was completely unacceptable to this 4 (soon to be 5) year old. That is when it began. She screamed as if someone were killing her, pushed the shopping cart into my stomach and proceeded to drop to the floor and belt out a loud yell. I simply turned to the cashier at this point and said very calmly, “Yay, the first day of summer vacation! Woohoo!!!” and rolled my eyes right back at the woman.

I continued to ignore my child’s behavior to which aggravated her all the more. She got a hold of my ankle, wouldn’t let go and so, I had no other choice but to rip her off my leg and say firmly, “Good-bye, I am leaving”. Of course, natural instincts took over and she ran out the door chasing me all the way to the car trying to hit me in the process. Thinking this wouldn’t end nice, I had my two other children get in the van, shoved all my bags in there too and went to the other side where she was holding the door handles so I couldn’t get in. Once I pryed her hands off, I got her door opened and tried putting her in to which she put up a very good fight. After about a 5 minute struggle, I told my son to hold her while I put the child safety lock on and shoved her in. He did. Both my older daughter and my son were begging this girl to just get in the car as I saw the tears well up into their eyes. She scared them both and it was something I never thought would happen. It nearly brought me to tears. One, because I didn’t know what to do to make her stop screaming and carrying on like she was being tortured, and two, because I saw the fear and sadness in my other two children’s eyes.

With all of us finally inside the van, there she stood for another 15 minutes fighting with me to put her seat belt on. I kept telling her we couldn’t leave until she was seated and buckled, over and over and over again. I just sat there in the drivers seat thinking I was a complete failure! How come my child acted out like this? Was she tired? Did she have a long day? No, she was fine all day long and then bam! She heard the word “No” and she lost it completely! Testing her limits? Probably. Expecting mom to give in like usual? Probably. The last 4 years was I creating a spoiled child, a child that expected to get everything she wanted because she said she wanted it…probably. Have I ever set boundaries for her? Probably not. This is all new to me. I wanted to cry.

I think she finally realized I wasn’t going to back down and she slowly, very slowly (15 minutes later) got herself seated and buckled and we were on the road again. Was my nightmare over? I told her we would talk later after her bath when I can have a little quiet one on one with her. Got home and everything was peaches and cream again. Bath time was over and talk time began. I asked why she behaved that way and she told me that she wanted the one with the thing that you can put the badge in and I didn’t let her have it. I told her it was because it had a knife in it and it wasn’t something I wanted her to play with. She matter of factly said, “Well, we could have given the lady the knife”. Now, yeah, I probably could have taken that out, but she struggled in her decision making until it was too late. I told her that if she talked to me like she is now and she did not yell at me the way she did, I could have done that for her, but she choose to get loud, scream, cry, flop on the floor like a baby seal clasping her arms around my legs and I don’t reward bad behavior so she got nothing. She said “Everyone hates me and everyone is always mean to me”. I asked “Who hates you and is mean to you?” to which she replied, you and my brother. First I heard of it! I calmly told her that I loved her and I could never hate her. I may not like what she does, but I will never ever hate her. I asked her what I had to do to show her that I loved her. She said, “Hug me”. I explained that I do try to hug her and she pushes me away all the time, so I asked if she wanted me to hug her now and she said yes. I snuggled her and she ended up falling asleep to me telling her over and over again that I loved her forever and ever and ever………..

You think it stopped there? Think again! It took an hour to leave the house today because she couldn’t decide on which outfit out of the two I had selected to wear today. Once again, screams, fighting, hitting, kicking doors, you name it, it was done…but I remained calm and cool as a cucumber and stood my ground. She was not going to bully or tantrum her way out of it. OMG, what is a mom to do with a child like this? How to I curb those outbursts? I don’t know how long this will last, but mom can’t take too many more! It was emotionally draining for me! A friend suggested that I have her tested or looked at for a possible sinus problem because it sounded like something her daughter went though and now she is on allergy medicine every day and has never had an outburst like I described since. Is this possible? Something as simple as a sinus problem? How long do I wait this out to see if there is any improvement over time? It scares me to think my child is suffering and can’t vocalize what is wrong. 😦 If anyone out there has been in a similar situation, please let me know how you handled it, what your outcome has been and your advice on getting through this. I certainly could use the input.

I just hope tomorrow is a good day!

Pepsi Throwback Giveaway

I had a nice long post about the Pepsi Throwback giveaway and sadly all my blog posts have disappeared! On the upside, I had all the entrants enter to win via email and I was able to salvage most of that information. Out of those entrants, one winner, Carol M., was selected to win the Throwback mega prize worth $150.00! Her prize package includes:

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* Pepsi Throwback Trucker Cap
* Retro Pepsi Tin Lunch Box
* Retro Clock Radio/CD Player
* USB Lava Lamp
* Pepsi Throwback & Mountain Dew Throwback

As a recap; For a limited time, Pepsi and Mountain Dew are offering consumers a taste of the past with their own versions of Throwback, two new limited time only products inspired by the ’60s and ’70s, sweetened with natural sugar in a retro-looking package.