Settle my bankruptcy confusion

This topic has my mind so boggled! I have done my fair share of reading on the bankruptcy topic only to be left more and more confused each time I think I’ve nailed it. While watching the Suze Orman show on Saturday night, a comment was made, and I can’t recall the word for word, but this was the jist of it. If your debt equals your income, you may want to consider filing bankruptcy. *Please correct me if I’m wrong with that interpretation of the show* As hard as it is to grasp, yes, we are hugely in debt. How did it happen, I have no idea. Seems really sad in a odd way that I have no idea where our money went over the last two years. Yes, there was a couple layoffs that ate our savings and now we are left living paycheck to paycheck with nothing to spare. No, we did not plan right after we got married. Yes, we furnished our home, had three kids, bought and sold cars left and right, bought and sold two houses, you know, the typical American family who wanted it all right now and didn’t figure out how to pay for it until it was too late. We were in debt about 25,000.00 a couple years ago. Made a bad decision to take out a home equity loan to pay off that debt. Now two years later, we are worse off than we were before, about three times that to be honest. That my friends is NO way to live. We are, to put it bluntly, pretty much screwed. Now we are left to pick up the pieces and try and figure out where to go from here. We are both 40 with no savings and no retirement plans.

This whole thing is so terribly confusing to me. Do we settle with our credit card companies? Is it even possible to do that with NO savings to pay them off? Do we file bankruptcy and if so, which one? We most definitely can afford our house payments if we didn’t have all this flippin credit card debt. I just filled out an evaluation for assistance form with our mortgage company, so I will be waiting to hear what they come back and tell me. I went to the site that Ms. Suze Orman mentions, www.makinghomeaffordable.gov and found my mortgage carrier, followed their instructions for assistance and now we just wait to see what our fate will be.

Of course we want to pay our debts back if we can. After all, we got ourselves into this mess, it is our responsibility to get ourselves out of it, I just don’t know how right now. I think bankruptcy is a quick fix, but if it is our only option, we will do it. My husband works so hard at his job (drywall taper/finisher) as it is very labor intensive and many guys don’t last doing this position past 50. With one child left to enter kindergarten this year, my time to work is very limited. I work from home as I have my own business, but unless things start changing, I will have to get a job in the evenings outside of the home which I am totally willing to do.

All the chapters in my life, I never thought I’d have to settle with a 7, 11 or 13!

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Mindless Monday – The power of the meatball

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I don’t know what it is about a meatball that is so powerful. When you compare, the meatball is a circle in which no negative energy is trapped within. If you make a square or triangle meatball, it isn’t a meatball, but not only that, it wouldn’t give you the same sense of happiness, would it? Perhaps it stems from a memory as a child going to Grandma’s house to eat pasta every weekend, seeing the family, listening to the laughter, feeling the sense of warmness when you walked into the house, the smell of meatballs and pasta cooking, it all rolls into one feeling, the feeling of all that is powerful. Somehow I don’t think a meatsquare could be considered powerful, do you? Which could also be why we feel the need to fill up the corners of our rooms with things to make them appear more circular in nature. I have a few tree’s, plants, angled furniture in my corners simply to take the ‘points’ out of the rooms so the energy can flow in a ‘circular’ or ‘spherical’ motion. Just like a meatball.

These are some of the things that make me go “hmmm” on a mindless Monday.